Few days ago we have kicked off our first accountability call with Daniel and it has been an AMAZING experience! Now, Daniel is not just a stranger, we knew each other for some time already, and we definitely had some inspiring conversations before hand. So, it all just naturally evolved into something like that :) Thank you buddy – you will be one of the first to read this anyway :D
What is it?
It is a 1 hour phone call. In modern world this can be Skype call, What’s Up call or whatever else you may be running in your pocket
Where do you start?
1. You find a buddy first
2. You schedule recurrent 1 hour slot every week
3. You share and you listen
How do I find a buddy and what to look for?
* Look for positive attitude.
* Look for trust. A degree of trust will directly impact quality of call. The more trust you have, the more confident you will be to share the most vulnerable parts of your life, fears, whereabouts, etc. “what happens in Vegas should stay in Vegas”
* Look for urge to self improve, self correct, learn, grow and explore.
* Look for someone who can listen
* Look for someone who will commit long term
It can be anyone. Your friend, family member, coworker, partner – anyone you can trust will not go and use your sharings against you, but on the contrary – will do his/her best to listen and to accept you the way you are, without judging, giving advices and teaching you how you should be living your life
So, what is it that you share?
Below is a list of things to consider. Most of them were borrowed from Ilva and Liz, so, thank you them for trying, testing and sharing this with us
- Remind yourself of your own vision, values and mission
- 10 celebrations of the last week. What went well? What did you accomplished?
- Key learnings of the past week, insights, aha moments, lucky moments, magical experiences
- Quote of the week
- Inspiring people we met. Who we would like to meet?
- Who I can help and who can help me?
- Things we planned and wanted to do but didn’t happen. Why?
- 7 outcomes for the next week. What do you want to do, to achieve, to make a progress on?
- Crazy ideas
What are those crazy ideas?
Our brain continuously coming up with some crazy, outrageous and sometimes even mad and dangerous stuff. We often disregard them. I truly believe that in all those mad ideas there is a hidden innovation and force for good, future expansion and growth. Yes, not all of those will obviously will be of this nature or maybe not to the extend you have originally thought about them, but to a degree this could potentially change the world :)
Here is an example someone shared with me recently:
– What if I could focus my attention on designing teleportation device and harness speed of light?
Wow, now that’s really crazy stuff :)
What if you are not ready?
What if you don’t have vision, mission? What if you don’t know your values? What if you don’t have anything to celebrate?
It doesn’t not matter. In fact, you get on with this call and you admit everything first – “yes, I don’t have this, yes, I don’t know that”, etc. Then, you set yourself an outcome for the next week to at least get one thing sorted. Then, you keep rolling every week. This is not some kind of exam that you have to pass every week. This is your own sharing with yourself and to yourself. You know best what’s best for you my friend. No one else know better. We just need someone to hold us accountable for what we say, what we do and what we do not do on route towards our dreams.
Why do I need someone if I “know” everything myself?
Well, first, this will force you to spell it. Thoughts are very fuzzy. When you spell them, they make more sense.
Second – you get perspective. Hopefully your buddy will ask you few quality questions that will lead your thinking to realise few bits and to learn more about yourself, your triggers, motives, desires – basically more deeper understanding what makes you tick.
And third – you will start noticing patterns. Things that you do, things that you don’t, things that you appreciate more, things that you hate. All this will help you to be friend with yourself, to be yourself and to be able to operate out of your own self – which will have a tremendous positive impact on everything you do
The idea is not to shame and blame, but to discover who you really are, accept it and use it as a leverage to achieve anything you want
You either share or you listen.
When you listen – you just listen, without suggestions, judgement, comments or other common crap that usually makes you feel important in conversations. Drop all that. All you do – learn to REALLY listen and learn to ask quality question. That’s it. No opinions, no suggestions… just listen!
When you share, you kinda thinking it aloud. You can ask questions if you are confused, but you must be searching for answers within yourself. The other person may lead you by asking more quality question to help you to uncover your own hidden answers from within. Most of the time, if not always, you know true reasons and motives and you just need to surface them and have some guts to admit and accept them. Immediately you will be better off
Love you all and looking forwards for your awesome success stories and experiences with this crazy stuff